Terrified to go on Tinder date
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Stay somewhere busy and public, don't drink, drive yourself, and tell others where you will be. Just general good first date stuff.
The chances you'll be kidnapped or trafficked are seriously slim to none, human trafficking doesn't really work like that. That said, it's still best to take precautions because obviously people can be predatory in other ways.
I'd recommend the following:
- Choose a public place to meet at. Don't meet at either of your place's first.
- Let your friends know where you'll be and who you'll be going out with. Ask them to call or text to check in at various points of the night. You can share your location via various apps as well.
- Take your own transportation, be it a car, Uber, or public transit. (I cannot emphasize this enough).
- If you're drinking, choose a set number of drinks and stick to it. Buy your own drinks and stick to ones you're familiar with, preferably low ABV. Make sure to eat at some point beforehand & drink plenty of water.
- Remind yourself you don't owe him anything for the date. It's ok to have a nice time and go back to your place alone at the end of it:)
If I might add. Don't leave your drink unattended like going to the restroom and leaving it on the table.
Sad we have to worry about crap like this.
You’ve gotten good advice already. I had a Tinder date tonight. I could’ve walked to the restaurant from work, but I took my car. My excuse was in the summer rain happens at random times (true) but my main reason was a quick getaway if things went wrong. I also told a couple of coworkers where I was going. Relax and have fun!
Tinder is conspicuously silent on sexual assault statistics.
Don't go straight to his place. Meet someplace public.
These days, most bars and restaurants have cameras.
Not really extroverted but in certain situations it is ready to start conversations when they begin with obvious topic:
Museum: "wild how someone created that way back when isn't it?"
Art gallery: "I have never heard of this artist before, do you know anything about them?"
I have spent a little time, years ago in upstate New York, but never in the city (no desire to), but found the people amiable.
It really comes down to what you are comfortable with and if you want to push that comfort zone. I would lean towards that rather than the risk involved in Tinder hookups.
Maybe you are new in the area but don't you have coworkers or friend that might be able to help with some safe introductions?
Sorry if my ignorance is showing but I thought Tinder was pretty much for casual hookups and not for finding a potential SO.
I feel there are lot better options for meeting people and potential SOs than Tinder, but I know not what you are ultimately seeking.
It's been my experience that it's the same people across apps these days. What other suggestions do you have?
Depending on your likes, public markets, swap meets, animal shows, museums, art gatherings, tech shows...
Really it is what you are interested in and what you might be looking for in an SO,
If you are looking for casual hookups there are lots of random conventions that happen and a hotel is better than leading someone home or being in someone else's domain
You must be an extrovert. Not everyone feels comfortable striking up random conversations. And here in NY, it's almost considered rude in some places.